Episode 42

42 - reflection & LFTP format update

Published on: 1st October, 2021

A few negative comments from strangers can shut a man down when they confirm something he already believes about himself. In this short episode, Mike Forrester explains the gaps in the episode numbering. Mike had put an ad out, and a handful of random men replied with negative comments. None of them were listeners. Their words were superficial, but Mike gave them power anyway. The comments fed beliefs he already carried about his voice and his presence, and he let them stop him for a while.

Mike talks about what changed. He stepped back, saw what was happening, and realized what he had done. He worked through it on his own side and came back to the microphone. The recap episodes that were held back will now be published, so listeners get that extra insight to work from. He also lays out a new rhythm for the show with three episodes a week. Tuesday stays the interview day, with men who share where they’ve come from and how they changed. Friday becomes a question and answer episode built on the common questions Mike hears from clients and listeners. Sunday is the recap and summary of the interview.

The Friday episodes are where you come in. Mike wants the practical questions men actually ask. Maybe you want to know how to get over something. Maybe you want to know what a change looks like in your daily life. You can send them by direct message on Instagram, Facebook, or LinkedIn, or by email at mike@hicoachmike.com. Mike’s own story here is a picture of the quiet way a man can shut down. Nobody yelled and nothing broke. A few harsh words just landed on an old belief, and he went silent. This one is for the dad with kids still at home who lets a few careless words convince him to stay quiet. He wants his kids to see a father who gets back up and keeps showing up.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

  • Recognize when someone else’s careless comment is landing on a belief you already hold about yourself.
  • See how shutting down after criticism can look quiet from the outside and still stop you cold.
  • Learn how stepping back to see what happened helped Mike start again.
  • Spot how putting yourself out there in your work can draw criticism, and decide whose opinion gets a say.
  • See why getting back up after being shut down shows your kids a different way to handle harsh words.
  • Use the Friday episodes to get practical answers to the questions you’d rather not ask out loud.

The key moments in this episode are:

00:00:23 - when negative comments confirm what you already believe about yourself

00:01:03 - how to step back after criticism shuts you down

00:01:29 - three new episodes each week, including guest interviews

00:01:51 - Friday episodes answering men’s most common questions

00:02:39 - Sunday recap episodes and how to send Mike your questions

Connect with Mike Forrester

https://linktr.ee/hicoachmike

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Living Fearless Today
Helping men break generational cycles, heal the father wound, and become a better husband and dad.
You swore you'd be a different kind of father than the one who raised you. Then one day you caught his words and tone coming out of your mouth. You felt the same distance creep in at home, and wondered how much of him you're still carrying despite the promise you made to yourself.

Living Fearless Today is a podcast for men who are done repeating the patterns they grew up with. Host Mike Forrester has stood where you're standing. Every week he brings honest conversations and practical tools for the parts of a man's life that rarely get said out loud: the father wound you never named, the anger that shows up with the people you love most, the marriage that's gone quiet, and the man you still want to become.

The show helps you understand the past that shaped you. Then you take an honest look at where you stand today as a husband, a father, and a man. From there you start building the future you actually want, one choice at a time, instead of drifting into the one you were handed and currently living out.

Episodes cover identity, anger, shame, marriage and fatherhood, relationships, self-worth, courage, emotional intelligence, legacy and purpose, and the brotherhood that the vast majority of men are missing. If you've looked for how to break generational cycles, face a father wound, handle anger as a dad, or become a better husband and father, start here.

The cycle can end with you. Press play and take the first step toward becoming the man you needed when you were young.

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Mike Forrester

Mike Forrester is a men's transformation coach, founder of the Living Fearless coaching programs, and host of the Living Fearless Today podcast. His insights, methods and stories of overcoming childhood trauma, dyslexia and loss of loved ones have been featured on various podcasts, including Hanging Onto Hope, Extreme Health, Own Your Life Own Your Career and Think Unbroken.