Episode 389
Leaning Into What Makes You Different And Unique with Alan Lazaros
Have you ever felt like you're too much or not enough? I sit down with Alan Lazaros, CEO of Next Level University, to explore the journey of self-acceptance and personal growth. Alan's story is one of resilience and transformation. From losing his father at age two to navigating a tumultuous childhood, he shares how adversity shaped his drive for success and work ethic. But success came at a cost - the fear of being seen for who he truly is.
Alan's insights challenge us to look inward, become self-aware and become comfortable with all aspects of ourselves - the good, the bad, and the extraordinary. His message is clear: true fulfillment comes from owning who you are and improving from a place of self-acceptance. If you struggle with self-doubt, impostor syndrome or the fear of standing out, then listen to what Alan shares in this episode and decide that it's time to step into your authentic power and create the life you truly desire.
The Power of Owning Your Uniqueness
- Why do some people fear being "too much" while others fear being "not enough"
- How to work from your strengths without dimming your light
- The importance of authenticity in personal and professional relationships
Overcoming Childhood Traumas
- How early experiences shape our beliefs and behaviors
- The impact of abandonment on future relationships
- Turning pain into motivation for success
The key moments in this episode are:
00:07:38 - Self-Concept and Understanding Others
00:11:09 - Personality Tests and Divergent Thinking
00:13:19 - Exploring Personality Assessments
00:21:19 - Overcoming childhood challenges
00:23:28 - Impact of family trauma
00:29:10 - How Drive Can Come from Pain
00:33:21 - Struggles with Competence and Belonging
00:41:04 - Embracing Uniqueness and Self-acceptance
Connect with Alan Lazaros
Website
https://www.nextleveluniverse.com
https://www.linkedin.com/in/alanlazarosllc
http://www.instagram.com/alazaros88
http://www.facebook.com/alan.lazaros
Connect with Mike Forrester
Podcast Website
https://LivingFearlessTodayPodcast.com
Coaching Website
https://www.linkedin.com/in/hicoachmike/
Youtube
https://www.youtube.com/@hicoachmike
https://www.facebook.com/hicoachmike
https://www.instagram.com/hicoachmike
Transcript
Well, hello and welcome back, my friend, and this week I've
Speaker:got Alan Lazarus joining me.
Speaker:And Alan has one of those experiences where you could look at him and go,
Speaker:Alan, you've got that get out of jail card that would allow you to just go off
Speaker:the rails, to medicate, to do whatever.
Speaker:Alan had an experience at 26 that was that second chance in life.
Speaker:And it's no different than any of us.
Speaker:We wake up today, tomorrow.
Speaker:We've got that second chance.
Speaker:We don't have to wait for that event to occur.
Speaker:We've got today.
Speaker:And I want to, want you to see from the way Alan has changed things that there
Speaker:is hope that we can change and our life can change and that it's just up to us to
Speaker:take the actions and make that commitment.
Speaker:To ourselves and to what we're doing to bring about that transformed life.
Speaker:So super excited to jump in with Alan here.
Speaker:How are you doing today, Alan?
Speaker:I'm doing very well.
Speaker:Thank you for that intro.
Speaker:And I could not agree more.
Speaker:Every single day is a new opportunity to go and build a
Speaker:bigger, better, brighter future.
Speaker:But it's, it starts with taking personal responsibility and it starts with
Speaker:learning how to build self belief and it starts with work ethic and humility and.
Speaker:I think all great things need to sort of start there, and I'm very grateful
Speaker:to be here because I do not take it lightly to speak into the lives of other
Speaker:people, because what you are seeing and hearing is changing what you think
Speaker:about, say, feel, do, believe, and what you say, think, do, feel, and believe
Speaker:dictates your bigger, better, brighter future, whether or not you actually
Speaker:grab that and make it happen or not.
Speaker:So if, if you are listening or watching this, I'm very grateful
Speaker:and honored, seriously, because.
Speaker:Podcasts, books, and motivational videos have really helped me
Speaker:sort of reorchestrate my life in a much more positive direction.
Speaker:I started listening to podcasts and reading self improvement books
Speaker:10 years ago, and they've, they've absolutely transformed the way I think.
Speaker:And, and the way that I live,
Speaker:yeah.
Speaker:And that's the thing.
Speaker:They have that power.
Speaker:It's whether we like step into, uh, you know, what they're providing
Speaker:us with and really amplify it.
Speaker:So it's just like a hammer.
Speaker:If hammer can sit on the desk and look great.
Speaker:But man, if you use it on a nail, it's going to make a difference there.
Speaker:Alan, let's jump into what is, what does it look like on the professional
Speaker:side of things for you today?
Speaker:Professional first.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:Yeah, I love it.
Speaker:I think all of us love the personal or the professional.
Speaker:I love professional.
Speaker:So the personal is more vulnerable for me.
Speaker:Uh, professional.
Speaker:Some people have a job, some people have a career, some people have a calling.
Speaker:I am very fortunate ten years ago to have transitioned from career to calling.
Speaker:What does my professional life look like?
Speaker:So I'm the CEO of Next Level University.
Speaker:You've met my business partner, Kevin.
Speaker:Two, two young men, grew up without dads, uh, trying to be
Speaker:male role models in the world.
Speaker:And, uh, Big dreams, lots of work ethic and no self worth.
Speaker:I'm kidding.
Speaker:Uh, but, but kind of in hindsight.
Speaker:And, uh, I'm the CEO of the company.
Speaker:We have a 17 person team now.
Speaker:We have, uh, 11 departments.
Speaker:It used to be 22, but we collapsed it like we talked about.
Speaker:And got refocused.
Speaker:And now I'm a business coach primarily.
Speaker:So there's three things that I do.
Speaker:I call them the glass balls.
Speaker:I say we're all jugglers.
Speaker:This is the metaphor I use with my entire company and all my clients.
Speaker:A company of 17 people, clients of 28 people on my roster
Speaker:currently, all business owners.
Speaker:And I say this metaphor, I'll start with this, this is game
Speaker:changing, has been for me.
Speaker:We're all jugglers, and we're juggling 12 balls.
Speaker:You know, you got household, laundry, you're the CEO, you're also a coach, you
Speaker:also have fitness, blah, blah, blah, blah.
Speaker:You're juggling 12 balls.
Speaker:Three of them are glass.
Speaker:Nine of them are rubber, the rubber ones you can drop and they bounce back up.
Speaker:Can't drop the glass balls.
Speaker:Cause if you do, they shatter, how dare you?
Speaker:I'm kidding.
Speaker:They shatter.
Speaker:And then I went one layer deeper because I kept dropping my glass
Speaker:balls and I want to lead by example.
Speaker:So I tell the team, I say, okay, we all have three glass balls.
Speaker:Cause we all have our priority run prior to two priority three.
Speaker:And mine is coaching, training, and podcasting.
Speaker:And last week I had to cancel two podcasts because a client needed me.
Speaker:And I say, there's a gold ball, there's a silver ball and a bronze ball.
Speaker:So three glass balls, one's golden, one's silver, one's bronze.
Speaker:And I traded in two bronze for a gold last week.
Speaker:So now my new metaphor, and this I use with all my clients
Speaker:on my team very recently, never drop the golden glass ball.
Speaker:And so for me, professionally, the golden glass ball is one on one coaching.
Speaker:One on one coaching.
Speaker:28 one on one clients currently.
Speaker:Business owners, business coaching.
Speaker:That is my favorite work in the freaking world.
Speaker:I like it significantly more than everything else I do, but, uh, that's
Speaker:really what I'm mainly focused on.
Speaker:And honestly, that's the one place I'm really winning at because I'm
Speaker:so focused on it and a lot of I'm outside my comfort zone for sure.
Speaker:And kind of letting some other things fall.
Speaker:Well, and I think being able to like, look at, Hey, this
Speaker:is what I'm passionate about.
Speaker:This is where I'm gifted and this is not where I'm gifted.
Speaker:You know, and being able to discern that right there is super powerful as well.
Speaker:I mean, not to be overlooked and, you know, minimize.
Speaker:So,
Speaker:well, thank you for calling that out too, because Kevin and I, we both
Speaker:have similar glass balls, but his golden glass ball is podcasting.
Speaker:And working
Speaker:with podcasters for me, podcasting is my bronze one.
Speaker:So it's coaching, training, podcasting, podcasting is a wider net.
Speaker:And what we learned over the years as a computer engineer, me, I'm very esoteric,
Speaker:weird, high statistical anomaly guy.
Speaker:So he casts a wide net better than I do one on one.
Speaker:I'm your guy.
Speaker:I mean, we can customize design, reverse engineer, anything you want within
Speaker:goals, dreams, metrics, habits, skills.
Speaker:Identity casting a wide net for me is really hard.
Speaker:I used to think I was a strong speaker.
Speaker:Then Kevin and I would go give speeches together.
Speaker:Everyone would hate me and love him.
Speaker:So, um, he would think he's going to add no value and everyone
Speaker:would love him and enjoy him.
Speaker:I would think I'm going to add tons of value, but I'm afraid
Speaker:everyone's going to hate me.
Speaker:And so he found out.
Speaker:We found out through each other, his fear is not adding value.
Speaker:I'm not afraid of that at all.
Speaker:My fear is not being liked.
Speaker:So he's naturally liked.
Speaker:I naturally add value.
Speaker:Um, but it turns out no one gets the value if they don't like you.
Speaker:So, um, I had to kind of lean into one on one we hide me behind the curtain.
Speaker:You're the, you're the wizard of Oz is what I hear in
Speaker:there.
Speaker:We all crave what we're not, I guess, you know?
Speaker:Well, and
Speaker:that was exactly what I was going to ask you.
Speaker:I'm like, okay, so you guys have had similar like challenges, right?
Speaker:But different paths do when you and, and Kevin look at that.
Speaker:Do you then see that tied back to.
Speaker:Um, kind of your individual experiences, like what you went through in
Speaker:your childhood, um, upbringing.
Speaker:Is that what it's related back to?
Speaker:Well, there's, so there's three frames that, uh, whenever I coach anybody, I'm
Speaker:always looking at three main things.
Speaker:What do you think about yourself?
Speaker:What do you feel about yourself?
Speaker:What do you believe about yourself?
Speaker:Self concept and self awareness.
Speaker:Self acceptance, self discipline, self love, all these self things.
Speaker:Uh, that was the one that I struggled with the self concept
Speaker:stuff, the self awareness stuff.
Speaker:I didn't understand myself that well.
Speaker:I didn't understand how freaking different I was.
Speaker:Uh, the second one is how you view the human condition.
Speaker:Cause people say, well, how you view things changes the way you, yes,
Speaker:but there's three different things.
Speaker:How you view yourself, how you view others and how you view the world.
Speaker:I understood the world and how the world worked.
Speaker:I understood business, and finance, and science, and technology, and chemistry,
Speaker:and mathematics, and buh buh buh buh.
Speaker:So I understood how the economy worked.
Speaker:Kevin didn't at all.
Speaker:To an alarming extent.
Speaker:It's like, brother.
Speaker:So I taught him about the world.
Speaker:He helped me learn more about myself.
Speaker:Particularly where I was different.
Speaker:Uh, one example to make this tangible rather than esoteric is I didn't
Speaker:understand that a lot of people don't believe in themselves because
Speaker:we were friends in middle school and then in high school, he didn't
Speaker:like me and I didn't like that.
Speaker:He didn't like me, but I never disliked him, but in hindsight, he was really
Speaker:insecure and didn't believe in himself.
Speaker:And I was apparently pretty arrogant.
Speaker:Um, I appeared arrogant and I finally figured out why if you have level
Speaker:10 self belief and only level eight humility, you appear level two arrogant.
Speaker:Oh, okay.
Speaker:So I do come off as very arrogant, particularly to people who
Speaker:don't believe in themselves.
Speaker:But I'm a math guy, so I have a lot of mathematical certainty, so External
Speaker:achievement always came fairly easy.
Speaker:But anyways, so, that's an example where Kev said, Dude, you don't understand what
Speaker:it's like not to believe in yourself.
Speaker:And at the time I was like, what do you mean?
Speaker:I don't even know what you're talking about.
Speaker:He's like, dude, no one believes in themselves as much as they pretend.
Speaker:And I was like, seriously?
Speaker:And since then, that's really opened up a new world for me, because there's certain
Speaker:people in the world, I use Tom Brady as an example, that dude has no idea what
Speaker:it's like not to believe in himself.
Speaker:He has no clue.
Speaker:And he doesn't, everyone around him acts like they believe in
Speaker:themselves too, so he lives in this echo chamber of the whole world.
Speaker:If you ever heard Dwayne the Rock Johnson, he says this, he says,
Speaker:well, just because it's never been done doesn't mean it can't be done.
Speaker:And for me, I'm like, that's exactly how I think it makes no sense to other people.
Speaker:It's like, you really think you're going to be the next Will Smith in my head?
Speaker:It's like, well, someone has to.
Speaker:So Kev is the one who helped me understand that I have no idea how
Speaker:I'm wired and how different I am.
Speaker:So, um, to make this all land, it's how you view yourself, how you view others,
Speaker:how you view the world is what matters.
Speaker:And growing up, we had similar circumstances, but the way we
Speaker:looked at ourselves, others in the world was very different.
Speaker:And that actually has helped us learn a lot.
Speaker:About each other and ourselves and other people.
Speaker:That is a lot that could be unpacked in there and gone further.
Speaker:Man, that's powerful there.
Speaker:Alan , I wanted to make
Speaker:it hard for you to choose where to go next.
Speaker:. Well, well I'm, I'm going with that high C on the disc and I'm looking at the
Speaker:check box that goes the next path to get, you know, continue on the journey.
Speaker:So I'm like, alright, let's, let's, let's go that way.
Speaker:. So I gotta do disc myself.
Speaker:I'm so sorry to interrupt you.
Speaker:I, I gotta do disc.
Speaker:I, I, I should have, what do you think is mine?
Speaker:Am I high D.
Speaker:Um, you would probably be D and maybe C, um, if you're looking
Speaker:at like What do they stand
Speaker:for again?
Speaker:Cause I do hexaco.
Speaker:And here's the thing about personality tests that have really bothered me.
Speaker:I don't mean to be, uh, uh, take the episode here, but you
Speaker:ever seen the Divergent series?
Speaker:I'm a big film guy.
Speaker:Divergent.
Speaker:The film Divergent.
Speaker:Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker:I have.
Speaker:The factions.
Speaker:Area day is one of them.
Speaker:Very smart.
Speaker:And then there's courageous.
Speaker:One of the things, one of the things that I never really liked about
Speaker:personality tests is I always felt like I belong in all of them and, and
Speaker:I could be wrong about this and please, as pretentious as this is going to
Speaker:sound, I wonder if some of us really are divergent, like I never felt like.
Speaker:Just an athlete.
Speaker:I never felt like just an engineer.
Speaker:I remember I used to say, why aren't engineers in better shape?
Speaker:Like I'm an engineer.
Speaker:Why, why aren't business professionals in better shape?
Speaker:Why aren't fitness models, business owners?
Speaker:Like what, why, why can't you be good looking and intelligent?
Speaker:I always wondered that and I think, I think in hindsight, it's very clear.
Speaker:I think that maybe these personality tests, the reason I never liked them
Speaker:is because I felt like I, I was disc all, all four of them in some way.
Speaker:Yeah, you, you will show up.
Speaker:Like I can say within disc, you'll have a certain percentage in each of
Speaker:the four, there will be a dominant one and a secondary one that rises
Speaker:to say, Hey, here's where you're at with the thing to be aware of is with.
Speaker:Each of these assessments, they're focused on A certain aspect.
Speaker:So if you look at a diamond, right, it's got multiple facets.
Speaker:They're looking at a facet on that diamond.
Speaker:They're not a full spectrum.
Speaker:So when you bring in like Myers Briggs, you know, MBTI or, um,
Speaker:Hexico, Hexico.
Speaker:I've not heard of Hexico.
Speaker:Um, there's one that's
Speaker:humility, extraversion, that kind of thing.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:I know that conscientiousness is a big part of hexaco.
Speaker:I haven't done, I haven't done a full hexaco, uh, personality
Speaker:test, but it's, it's definitely informed some because in hexaco.
Speaker:Anyone who has high in conscientiousness is most associated with external success.
Speaker:And I always felt like I was really wired that way.
Speaker:It's organization, prudence, diligence, and work ethic.
Speaker:And prudence is the ability to make the right decision.
Speaker:Diligence is work ethic.
Speaker:Uh, perfectionism is in there too.
Speaker:Cause people think perfectionism is a bad thing, but being very thorough
Speaker:is actually really good in business.
Speaker:So, um, again, I digress, but
Speaker:I'll just say thorough and perfectionism were not the same word for me when
Speaker:I was, when I was insecure, low self worth, they were very different.
Speaker:The perfectionism was like the, the way to.
Speaker:And so it was the way that I didn't then get to the completion.
Speaker:Right.
Speaker:I didn't release or finish things because they were never perfect.
Speaker:And so it was like, For me, it was a cop out, but thorough was a different thing.
Speaker:I could give you something that was thorough, but if it was like,
Speaker:Hey, this has got to be perfect.
Speaker:Nope.
Speaker:They didn't match up.
Speaker:Um, kind of tying back into the, the assessments.
Speaker:I think that in taking multiple assessments, you get a more well
Speaker:rounded, um, image of what your gifting is and who you are and you're, you're
Speaker:bent, but I don't think any of them in and of themselves have the whole.
Speaker:of who we are, what we can do.
Speaker:It's almost like going to a buffet and saying, okay, I want chicken.
Speaker:Great.
Speaker:Here's this type of chicken.
Speaker:I want, I don't want the other ones.
Speaker:I want beef.
Speaker:You know what I mean?
Speaker:You're, you're able to pick out a, um, A different focus.
Speaker:Yeah, exactly.
Speaker:And so, um, they're great.
Speaker:And DISC has then been, um, kind of stylized, right?
Speaker:So somebody would say, these are the different gems and it's, you
Speaker:know, four different gems, but it's, it's just a reinterpretation of it.
Speaker:So you could do that with animals or trees or whatever.
Speaker:kind of character or, or image to overlay on the original disc.
Speaker:But They all kind of have that same flair on it.
Speaker:So there's a lot of them that will have four and that's what
Speaker:they're measuring is, you know, that D, I, S and C. So what are the
Speaker:D, I, S and C stand for?
Speaker:So D is dominant driven.
Speaker:Uh, it's, it is like a driver.
Speaker:Um, so hang on, let's see.
Speaker:So the D is more of like.
Speaker:The CEO, they have the vision, but they don't really have the details.
Speaker:Um, they're, they're going to be just like, Hey, Alan, go, go take care of
Speaker:this engineering project and run with it.
Speaker:Right.
Speaker:Um, I is the party.
Speaker:And so they're more of like the influencer.
Speaker:They're going to, you don't really have a party until an eye shows up.
Speaker:So, you know, think of like life.
Speaker:D is dominance, I is influence, S is steadiness, and conscientiousness
Speaker:is the C, is conscientiousness.
Speaker:So C is more of like task, I'm using a spreadsheet, like you're
Speaker:very detail technical oriented.
Speaker:I resonate with all of them so deeply.
Speaker:And, and at some level you will.
Speaker:It could be like D is 80, um, S would be like, Is it possible to have
Speaker:really high scores in all of them?
Speaker:Um, not that I've seen you could have a high score, you could
Speaker:have a high score in all of them, but then the thing that they're
Speaker:looking at is what are you masking?
Speaker:So are you really answering truthfully?
Speaker:To where everything is, you know what I'm saying?
Speaker:Like, um, like when you look at Kevin, Kevin has certain
Speaker:strengths and certain weaknesses.
Speaker:You have certain strengths and certain weaknesses.
Speaker:So something will be that cream that rises to the top and something else may
Speaker:be at the middle level, but there's going to be some area where you really excel.
Speaker:And it's like, okay, here's your, um, your primary.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Characteristic of it.
Speaker:So, um, there's more nuances in it.
Speaker:I understand it well enough to know that.
Speaker:Hey, I am very focused on tasks.
Speaker:It's almost like
Speaker:1 of them is your nature.
Speaker:Like, there's, there's your nature and then there's what you've nurtured in
Speaker:the sense of it's almost like, because I used to think self improvement was.
Speaker:I'm going to go and try to improve these things that I suck at and try to be
Speaker:different than I am versus accept that I actually am naturally engineering thinking
Speaker:math, modality of thinking, and, and then learn how to, because I think in the
Speaker:past I had some shame around being smart.
Speaker:And
Speaker:I think that when I was around other people, I would socially sort of
Speaker:fit in, try to fit in and belong.
Speaker:And I wouldn't question people who I think were saying ignorant things.
Speaker:Cause people who are insecure about their intelligence definitely don't want you to.
Speaker:I'll give you an example.
Speaker:So there's 1 person is like, well, Alan, you know, these days, the only
Speaker:way to make money is real estate.
Speaker:And my brain went, that's the dumbest thing I've ever heard.
Speaker:Uh, because the tech industry, obviously, social media, eSports, like these, uh,
Speaker:if that was ever not true, it would be now, sir, but, uh, 21st century,
Speaker:you ever hear the top companies that none of them are in real estate.
Speaker:Some of them are, but Walmart, but the point I'm making is
Speaker:those people were so insecure.
Speaker:They didn't want you to call them out when they were around other people,
Speaker:because then they look less than.
Speaker:And so being smarter than I learned very young was like
Speaker:dangerous, socially dangerous.
Speaker:And I think that it made me into this sort of chameleon who could,
Speaker:who could communicate well.
Speaker:And all my engineering friends from college, they didn't know how
Speaker:to communicate with other people.
Speaker:I think, I think communication for me.
Speaker:Learning how to effectively communicate is actually more nurture than it is nature.
Speaker:I don't think I was naturally a strong communicator.
Speaker:I think I had to figure out how to do that so that I was socially belong,
Speaker:but naturally I think I'm actually very, uh, different than that.
Speaker:So like I influence, I'm good at influencing people, but I don't
Speaker:feel like that came naturally.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:And there could be a component to that.
Speaker:Yeah, it, it depends.
Speaker:Like there's different brands of the disc test, right?
Speaker:Um, you'll almost have like, you know, the Baskin Robbins 31 flavors, a company.
Speaker:You'll say, yes, we're offering this, but this is the way we interpret it.
Speaker:And we're looking for this nuance in it.
Speaker:So sometimes you'll get that kind of a thing where it's like at work, you
Speaker:show up as this at home or in your personal life, you show up as this.
Speaker:Um, I. I know for me, it was, I was the insecure person.
Speaker:And so for being able to look at technical stuff and have that understanding where
Speaker:I didn't see that a lot of people did, that became like my sense of strength,
Speaker:if that makes sense to where I could have that value and show up and be.
Speaker:Accepted, which is something I didn't feel at home, is where I could have my value
Speaker:and my purpose, and it'd be like the way I also protected myself, um, was knowing
Speaker:the, the different things that were going on, being able to look at the data and
Speaker:go, Hey, this is, this can be a problem.
Speaker:Oh, great.
Speaker:Um, this then means the finance depart, you know, we're not doing
Speaker:well financially as a company.
Speaker:Um, that means that the upper, you know, upper management
Speaker:is going to be laying off.
Speaker:You know what I mean?
Speaker:Like being able to look at stuff and analyze it and make those determinations.
Speaker:So, um, but at that point, a lot of our strengths
Speaker:come out of fear or scarcity or challenges we had growing up,
Speaker:at least the conditioned ones.
Speaker:Not necessarily the natural strengths, but like, yeah, it's fascinating.
Speaker:I, a lot of, a lot of what I needed to be growing up in order to overcome adversity
Speaker:ended up being my leader on superpowers.
Speaker:It's sort of that superhero analogy of the tragedies that happen.
Speaker:Being the gifts that eventually you help the world with.
Speaker:So I think it's a cool metaphor.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:And it's, it's something that, I mean, we can see it as the things that are going to
Speaker:sink us or be the quicksand that we live, you know, from, but often that becomes
Speaker:like the pillars that raise us up, like you're talking about and where we can work
Speaker:from and help other people to achieve, you know, higher levels of who they are.
Speaker:Um, since we're, we're talking about, you know, Childhood and stuff like that.
Speaker:I want to jump over and and kind of give a little bit more of a context
Speaker:or understanding about where you come from and how you've made that change.
Speaker:Um, so at 2 years old, man, your, your dad passed away in an
Speaker:accident, had a really bad accident.
Speaker:Um, you know, he's, he's no longer there.
Speaker:Your mom gets married and, um, you know, you've got your stepdad
Speaker:along and then at 14, they divorce.
Speaker:Dude, you're in like just that crucial age, Alan, where it's like those
Speaker:formative years of, Hey, I, I already feel my hormones going, you know, so
Speaker:much is changing around me and feels un,
Speaker:Unsecure.
Speaker:And then the male figure that you have, um, has stepped away.
Speaker:Where do you see, like, with that stuff?
Speaker:How did that then impact you?
Speaker:Figuring out, Hey, this is who I am as a man, what a man is and how you went
Speaker:forward, um, in your teen and then into adult years, like how did that impact you?
Speaker:Well, the first thing that came up when you were talking about that was, don't
Speaker:worry, I didn't hit puberty till about 30, so there was no hormones going on.
Speaker:I'm joking.
Speaker:I used to be able to say I still haven't, but now I have a beard.
Speaker:So apparently I can't say that.
Speaker:No, uh, seriously again, humor is great and I think it's important, but I also
Speaker:don't want it to avoid the uncomfortable truths of how hard that time was.
Speaker:14 was the hardest year of my life.
Speaker:I didn't really know that at the time consciously, but when I
Speaker:was 14, my stepdad left, took 90 percent of the income with him.
Speaker:We went from sort of, Boats and ski trips and snowmobiles.
Speaker:And this was the late nineties, early two thousands, he worked for
Speaker:a company called AGFA AGFA, and they did hospital computers during the.
Speaker:com bubble.
Speaker:So, I mean, back in the nineties, particularly in the U S but
Speaker:globally, everyone had money.
Speaker:I mean, it was wild and, uh, It felt like everyone was running
Speaker:amok is what I would call it.
Speaker:Uh, but certainly my mom and stepdad, they have what I refer to.
Speaker:They had what I refer to as a pleasure centered paradigm, which is just a
Speaker:belief that life is about having as much fun as possible, which I think is.
Speaker:A terrible paradigm personally, I think that on the other
Speaker:side, it looks really fun.
Speaker:I did it too.
Speaker:It looks really fun from the outside looking in, but from the inside
Speaker:out, it's it's really terrible.
Speaker:And so they love to party and they surrounded themselves with other people
Speaker:who love to party and everyone had money.
Speaker:So that's a recipe for a lot of stuff and they did not get along.
Speaker:And that's a polite way to put it on a on a public medium.
Speaker:That said.
Speaker:Boats, ski trips, mom drove a BMW, home on a lake, we had an apartment
Speaker:building, we literally had a yacht, uh, deep sea fishing, a lot of stuff.
Speaker:So when my stepdad left, took 90 percent of the income with him, we went from boats
Speaker:and ski trips to I now have free lunch at school because our income is so low.
Speaker:Uh, and there's some shame around that.
Speaker:I shop at Salvation Army now.
Speaker:We weren't gonna starve, however, it was not the same life.
Speaker:It was not the same life at all.
Speaker:I mean, Xbox and Dreamcast and early Christmas presents, even
Speaker:though family and home life was not good, the stuff was awesome.
Speaker:And the video games and computers and all that stuff that I used to get.
Speaker:And then 14 comes, stepdad leaves, takes his entire extended family with him too.
Speaker:I still, to this day, have never spoken to or seen a single one of them since.
Speaker:I have spoken to my stepdad a little bit on Facebook
Speaker:Messenger, but nothing in person.
Speaker:And, uh, so I still haven't seen any of them.
Speaker:That same year, my sister moves out, understandable, older
Speaker:sister, with her older boyfriend.
Speaker:Same year, so at this point, the McCorkles, my birth father, John McCorkle,
Speaker:Part of a big Irish Catholic family.
Speaker:Jim, Joe, John, Jane, Joan, Jeanette.
Speaker:Six kids, all J. And, we didn't associate with the McCorkles anymore because
Speaker:we were trying to be the Lazaruses.
Speaker:Just unconsciously and or avoiding it.
Speaker:Trauma.
Speaker:I don't really know, to be honest.
Speaker:I'm assuming probably the second one.
Speaker:And, I'm 14 years old.
Speaker:I don't know my birth father's side of the family almost at all.
Speaker:My stepfather's side of the family, including him, leave and
Speaker:take 90 percent of the income.
Speaker:Sister moves out.
Speaker:Same freakin year.
Speaker:Didn't realize this until therapy in my 30s, by the way.
Speaker:At least not consciously, obviously.
Speaker:I realized it at the time.
Speaker:Mom gets in a fight with my Aunt Sandy.
Speaker:And my Aunt Sandy ostracizes us from my mom's entire side of the family.
Speaker:To this day, I have since seen two of them.
Speaker:And one of them, my Aunt Kathy, I've seen one time.
Speaker:So I lost three families by the time I'm 14 years old.
Speaker:What I didn't understand at the time is the abandonment
Speaker:issues that came with that.
Speaker:So there's four trauma responses.
Speaker:Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn.
Speaker:The ones people know is fight and flight.
Speaker:Freeze is disassociate, and then fawn Didn't learn about
Speaker:that until way freaking later.
Speaker:Fawn is become a social coward.
Speaker:I was Good Will Hunting is a perfect metaphor for the way I was.
Speaker:It was just don't Leave me, please.
Speaker:Unconsciously, like friends that I, that were not good for me, you
Speaker:know, just hanging out with people that were not anything like me.
Speaker:And, and I just, I realized that socially my trauma response was to two
Speaker:things, fight and fawn, fawn, socially, socially, just do whatever you have to
Speaker:do to fit in and to belong and try not to lose any more friends or family.
Speaker:None of that was conscious.
Speaker:It was all deep seated need for belonging, but behind the scenes, baby.
Speaker:It was fight.
Speaker:It was aim higher, work harder, get smarter.
Speaker:My drive, Kevin always says, you're like a cyborg.
Speaker:This dude does not stop.
Speaker:The truth is the drive comes from pain.
Speaker:It's not from roses.
Speaker:It's not from butterflies.
Speaker:Like the super achievers of the world, FYI, they usually have massive trauma.
Speaker:Now, when you heal that, my fear going to therapy was am I gonna lose my edge?
Speaker:Am I gonna lose my edge?
Speaker:I've been doing therapy for like four or five years.
Speaker:My therapist, her name's Carol.
Speaker:It got bigger, man!
Speaker:My drive got way freakin bigger!
Speaker:I was so scared to lose my drive, because if I'm very honest, I do think
Speaker:the majority of the world is kinda lazy.
Speaker:Kevin helped me reframe this.
Speaker:He said, dude, they're not lazy.
Speaker:You're just really hardworking.
Speaker:I'm like, oh.
Speaker:But it's hard for you, when I wake up in the morning, I
Speaker:don't go, I'm so hardworking.
Speaker:Like, if anything, I think I'm kind of lazy.
Speaker:To be completely honest with you guys, I could, I could dial it way up.
Speaker:So, it's this weird thing where you have to separate your world from the world,
Speaker:and that's why statistics changed my life.
Speaker:Because, statistically, I'm super intelligent and super
Speaker:hardworking, even though you're not allowed to say that, by the way.
Speaker:It took me years to be able to say that out loud.
Speaker:However, I don't wake up in the morning going, I'm so
Speaker:smart, I think I'm so stupid.
Speaker:Like, but I'm, I think I'm smarter than most other people, but I'm really dumb.
Speaker:So compared to what there is to know, I know nothing.
Speaker:Compared to other people, whoa.
Speaker:I know a lot.
Speaker:Holy crap.
Speaker:And it's very hard to live in that duality.
Speaker:And so 14 years old was the hardest year of my life, and I went from, I hope to go
Speaker:to WPI, Worcester Poly Technic Institute.
Speaker:It's like a mini MIT, one of the best engineering colleges on the planet
Speaker:to, it's 50 grand a year per year.
Speaker:Back then.
Speaker:This is 2000, what?
Speaker:Three?
Speaker:2004? Something like that.
Speaker:I graduated in 2007, so I was a, I was a freshman, so it was 2003,
Speaker:and I went for my hope to get in.
Speaker:And go and be an engineer to, I don't, even if I do get
Speaker:in, I don't think I can go.
Speaker:We can't afford that.
Speaker:How the hell am I going to go to college?
Speaker:So I just, behind the scenes, I fawned and I was, I was a very socially chameleon.
Speaker:I will chameleon and be whatever you need me to be to get love and belonging.
Speaker:Terrible idea, by the way.
Speaker:It's a good way to lose yourself.
Speaker:Uh, drink alcohol, dial myself down, get dumber, now I fit in.
Speaker:Awesome.
Speaker:The second one, though, was fight.
Speaker:Straight A's, baby.
Speaker:Didn't get a single B in all of high school.
Speaker:I got the president's award.
Speaker:It's behind me, signed by George W. Bush.
Speaker:And I was the obnoxious guy at the award ceremony that basically didn't sit down.
Speaker:It was award after award after award, scholarships financially.
Speaker:And I got to go to WPI.
Speaker:I got my computer engineering degree.
Speaker:I got my master's in business, and then it was off to the races in
Speaker:corporate and 21st century post 2008.
Speaker:2011 2012 graduate of my bachelor's than my master's, I mean, the economy
Speaker:was coming back and I'm a computer engineer with an MBA combination.
Speaker:So it's just, you know, money went from 65 to 85 85 to 1 0 5 1 0 5
Speaker:to 1 25 1 25 to 1 80 in corporate in the span of like 3 or 4 years.
Speaker:I had an interview at SpaceX.
Speaker:I was just sought after because The world needed people who know technology
Speaker:and honestly, a lot of people freaking don't, which is wild to me because
Speaker:I grew up with this stuff, right?
Speaker:I was X B. Can Xbox connect with Halo one back in the day because
Speaker:we couldn't get on the Internet.
Speaker:Like, I built my first computer when I was 12.
Speaker:But you don't know that you don't know you're weird because you're just a kid.
Speaker:And then when you get older, you go, Oh, I am so freaking weird, right?
Speaker:I was arguing who was smarter, Steve Jobs or Bill Gates when I was 12 years old.
Speaker:I used to think Bill, now I think Steve.
Speaker:But, ultimately, the point is, is no one argues that!
Speaker:No one is like that!
Speaker:So, so, long story long, childhood was wildly adverse.
Speaker:Somehow, I created drive out of that, but I became a social coward,
Speaker:and I never, everything I just shared, I never could have shared.
Speaker:Some people are afraid to not be good enough.
Speaker:I don't have whatever that is, and everyone watching who
Speaker:does knows that, intuitively.
Speaker:My fear is being seen as more than.
Speaker:My fear is I'm too smart.
Speaker:I'm too much.
Speaker:I'm too intense.
Speaker:I'm too driven.
Speaker:I'm too, and there are other people who have that same thing.
Speaker:And, and, um, there's that quote by Maya Angelou is it is not our darkness,
Speaker:but our light that most frightens us.
Speaker:Kevin, my business partner, who's afraid he's not enough.
Speaker:He has a great quote.
Speaker:He says, you are either afraid that all of you is not enough.
Speaker:That's me.
Speaker:Or you're afraid that all of you is too much.
Speaker:That's Alan.
Speaker:And we work really well together.
Speaker:And we learned this through each other, by the way, because the people who are too
Speaker:much don't know that that's their issue.
Speaker:They're afraid of success, not failure, and they just fail all the time, but
Speaker:they keep getting better and smarter and working harder and doing more.
Speaker:And then the people who are feeling like not good enough behind the scenes,
Speaker:they struggle with self doubt, but then when they're in public, they
Speaker:act like they believe in themselves.
Speaker:And especially when they're around people like me, because they're insecure.
Speaker:So they puff up, I dial down now we belong.
Speaker:And then we're behind the scenes.
Speaker:I go back to squatting a ton behind the scenes because I'm safe there.
Speaker:Um, and so what I say is you are either a social coward like me.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:Who struggles with courage, social courage, or you are.
Speaker:Struggling with competence.
Speaker:You don't feel smart enough or capable enough or good enough at external things.
Speaker:So I think some of us external achievement is really easy, but socially we feel
Speaker:easily ostracized and dislikable.
Speaker:That would be me.
Speaker:And some of us external achievement is really hard.
Speaker:You don't feel competent enough or smart enough, but
Speaker:socially you belong and fit in.
Speaker:And that makes sense because if you are in the middle of the bell curve, if
Speaker:you are average, you naturally fit in.
Speaker:You don't naturally stand out for me.
Speaker:I naturally stand out.
Speaker:So I want to fit in.
Speaker:And ironically, we all want to be different than we are, which is why
Speaker:it's so deeply unfulfilling because we have to all own and accept who
Speaker:we are, good, bad, ugly, and then grow from that authentic place.
Speaker:And the, the, the, I could never have shared any of that before my
Speaker:thirties because I just was too scared to be honest about who I really am.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:And I think that's one thing, especially as man, Alan, that
Speaker:it's like, if we share who we are.
Speaker:We're like, okay, we'll just be, you know, ostracized, we'll be kicked
Speaker:out, man, man card taken, so to speak, and just, you know, we're, we're
Speaker:afraid of how people will react and that we won't be included anymore.
Speaker:Um, and so I think the real freedom comes, like you're talking about being
Speaker:able to discuss this, because then it's like, I know that I'm not the only one
Speaker:that struggles with this, but there's a way to, there's a way to move beyond it.
Speaker:Right.
Speaker:That I'm not held back by this.
Speaker:And, and you talked about four years, um, with your, your counselor,
Speaker:that it's like, Hey, that's, that's sharpened the edge, not removed it.
Speaker:And so our assumptions can often be the thing that holds us back because it's
Speaker:like, we're just like, well, what if, um, you know, I was afraid that if I.
Speaker:Went back into what I had experienced that there was more that I had forgotten
Speaker:because that's something for my trauma.
Speaker:My memory is like Swiss cheese.
Speaker:And so there's a lot that I've forgotten.
Speaker:Okay, great.
Speaker:I'm gonna open Pandora's box.
Speaker:And now what?
Speaker:I think it's bad.
Speaker:Now it's going to be even worse.
Speaker:But you know, that's a story for another day.
Speaker:Um,
Speaker:yeah, that's, that's, I think that all of us deep down are afraid of
Speaker:who we really are in a way.
Speaker:And that's the, that's the paradox.
Speaker:That's the.
Speaker:That's the conundrum we all find ourselves in, which it's such a weird thing.
Speaker:Kev says this, he said, it's hard to feel bad for someone who checks so many boxes.
Speaker:And I know, and the truth is honestly people like I'm not a naturally likable
Speaker:person and, and my life changed when I realized that I was jealous of Kevin.
Speaker:Kevin admitted to himself that he was jealous of me from the very beginning.
Speaker:He's like, I'm never going to be as smart as Alan.
Speaker:I don't, and the truth is he isn't going to be.
Speaker:And he'll say it, not me.
Speaker:Like I am, I'm wired very differently and we're not all the same.
Speaker:We're not all born the same.
Speaker:And if you think we are, go play basketball with LeBron
Speaker:James and then come talk to me.
Speaker:The point that I'm making is you are gifted in some areas and
Speaker:you're definitely not in others.
Speaker:And that comes with a certain level of self acceptance that needs to happen.
Speaker:And so, my life changed when I finally admitted that I was envious
Speaker:of Kev for how easily likable he is.
Speaker:He's a very, we would go to the same thing.
Speaker:We'd do the same speech on the same topic.
Speaker:And everyone would hate me and everyone would love him and it's
Speaker:like what I don't understand like I'm adding more value than he is.
Speaker:It doesn't matter.
Speaker:It's not about value.
Speaker:So deep down little Alan, reparenting myself here, little Alan wanted to belong.
Speaker:If you're on the far end of any statistical bell curve, you actually
Speaker:statistically don't belong and people don't talk about this.
Speaker:They're like, oh, well, you know, it's not lonely at the top.
Speaker:Bring people with you.
Speaker:Listen, I, I coached someone with a 136 IQ who got a 730 on his math SATs.
Speaker:The dude thinks in numbers and the dude's a genius.
Speaker:He is alone up here.
Speaker:You want to know the freaking truth?
Speaker:He is alone statistically.
Speaker:He doesn't feel like anyone gets him except for me.
Speaker:I get it.
Speaker:I get it.
Speaker:You, you, no one gets you.
Speaker:They don't know the depths of you.
Speaker:They, they actually can't.
Speaker:You want to know why they can't?
Speaker:Because they don't have your brain.
Speaker:They don't have your gifts.
Speaker:And so, in a way, these people, and he struggles in relationships.
Speaker:Of course you do.
Speaker:You think in a math modality.
Speaker:No one else thinks 30 years ahead.
Speaker:And the people who do, you pitch and catch with.
Speaker:But there's not as many of us.
Speaker:So, an Elon Musk does feel alone.
Speaker:Of course he does.
Speaker:He doesn't talk about it.
Speaker:He thinks, he's like, Yeah, I actually think I fear, feel fear quite deeply.
Speaker:No, you don't.
Speaker:You just don't know that other people feel it way more than you do.
Speaker:And again, don't associate me with Elon, because obviously
Speaker:his personal life is atrocious.
Speaker:But, the point that I'm trying to make, Is that you have to own who you are,
Speaker:good, bad, and ugly, and then learn how to improve from that authentic place.
Speaker:I'm never going to be naturally gifted at relationships.
Speaker:You want to know why?
Speaker:And ironically, I won't get better at relationships until I own the
Speaker:fact that I'm not that good at them.
Speaker:And the reason I'm not that good at them is because I had an ex girlfriend.
Speaker:Her name was Courtney, sweetest person ever.
Speaker:She said, dating you is like dating a Stairmaster.
Speaker:You never stop.
Speaker:And here's the truth.
Speaker:I'm never gonna, I don't want to, that's like trying to get, I don't know.
Speaker:That's like trying to get a super achiever.
Speaker:To, to like R& R all the time.
Speaker:I, I haven't taken a full day off in 10 years.
Speaker:And, and the reason why, I remember I said that on a
Speaker:podcast with a woman named Debra.
Speaker:She said, Oh my God, that's so bad for you, Alan.
Speaker:And I said, No, Debra, that's bad for you.
Speaker:You can't project that onto me.
Speaker:I'm not saying I work 16 hour days every day.
Speaker:But I do build my goals and dreams every day.
Speaker:A little bit each day goes a long way.
Speaker:And some days it's one hour.
Speaker:Some days it's 16 hours.
Speaker:I'm gonna work on Christmas.
Speaker:I'm different.
Speaker:I don't care about Christmas the way other people do.
Speaker:That's my truth!
Speaker:And I have other people who admit that to me behind the scenes, but
Speaker:it's so fearful to say that because people don't like people like that.
Speaker:And so if you're out there and you feel unlikable, you probably are
Speaker:very different, and you need to learn how to own that uniqueness
Speaker:because that is your superpower.
Speaker:Humanity can benefit from it.
Speaker:If you do feel average, You need to own that too, and then go to work on
Speaker:the stuff that you need to work on.
Speaker:And the last piece of this I'll say is, Why would someone work intentionally on
Speaker:something they don't think needs work?
Speaker:In other words, if Kev doesn't admit that he's not naturally hardworking, Why would
Speaker:he go work on becoming more hardworking?
Speaker:I'm naturally hardworking.
Speaker:I don't, I'm a try hard.
Speaker:Whether it was snowboarding or video games or basketball, I'm what
Speaker:people refer to as an obsessive.
Speaker:It's my nature.
Speaker:If anything, I'm dialing it back right now.
Speaker:For Kev, he has to really ramp like, in order to keep up, he has to really try.
Speaker:And he has to work hard to keep up.
Speaker:I think that the hardest thing in life, I believe, is owning
Speaker:all of who you really are.
Speaker:And all of who you really are has some really positive things, and,
Speaker:uh, uh, maybe darker underbelly that, that you need to face.
Speaker:Because every strength comes with a weakness.
Speaker:For me, self belief is a strength, but humility was harder.
Speaker:For me, achievement was a strength, but relationships was harder.
Speaker:For me, uh, and then weaknesses come with strengths too.
Speaker:One weakness for me, uh, I'm not naturally gifted at communication, but that comes
Speaker:with a strength of I'm a math thinker.
Speaker:And I think mathematically in a world where most people think.
Speaker:In words and concepts and I think just owning all of who you are and then
Speaker:improving from that place from a place of actual self acceptance is where all
Speaker:all great things are are born because I think not being who you really are
Speaker:and owning who you really are is how we end up very unfulfilled and when
Speaker:we're unfulfilled we unintentionally hurt the people we love most.
Speaker:You also hurt yourself because it's like you're not living
Speaker:up to who you really could be.
Speaker:And you're, it's like, like you having to play small is still
Speaker:detrimental in some way to who you are.
Speaker:And.
Speaker:You know, you know that consciously, um, but it's just one of those of,
Speaker:okay, this is where I'm strong.
Speaker:This is where I'm weak.
Speaker:This is my challenge.
Speaker:This is, this is how I can get through.
Speaker:but dude, there's so much more that Alan, I mean, you've already shared
Speaker:so much in that we're different.
Speaker:We need to understand what our strengths are.
Speaker:Um, that sometimes our perception of somebody else can be totally
Speaker:false and we don't even know what they're feeling about us.
Speaker:It's not our business, but.
Speaker:Understand we all have perspectives.
Speaker:We're going to show up different and our responsibility is to continue being
Speaker:the best that we can be stepping into those strengths, building them, being
Speaker:aware of our weakness and seeing it.
Speaker:Can we delegate it?
Speaker:You know, whatever the case may be, that's a whole different conversation,
Speaker:but Um, dude, you've come with so much about where you were and the
Speaker:challenges and our challenges do not have to be the thing that holds us back.
Speaker:Um, you've shared that.
Speaker:I love that, that power that comes from it, Alan.
Speaker:And so I'm looking forward to jumping into more of, hey, there was the second
Speaker:chance and in the accident that you experienced and how you found that
Speaker:healthy balance and being able to discern.
Speaker:This is where I'm at.
Speaker:This is where the people I'm at are and just kind of the natural barriers
Speaker:that exist because of how people are and how you come into the equation,
Speaker:how you're accepted and seen.
Speaker:Um, dude, there's so much there and so much more to get into.
Speaker:And I'm, I'm really looking forward to that.
Speaker:I do want to At this point, man, I want to make sure that guys know how
Speaker:to connect with, with you, whether it's for, uh, the, the personal coaching,
Speaker:the business coaching, the podcast coaching, that whole, um, triangle
Speaker:that, that you and Kevin have, um, how can guys connect with you outside
Speaker:of the podcast for those things?
Speaker:Yeah, again, Mike, thank you for the work you do in the world and, uh, the
Speaker:best version of yourself next level.
Speaker:You pun intended become the best version of you.
Speaker:I'm Alan 3.
Speaker:6 right now.
Speaker:And Alan 3.
Speaker:6 is far better than Alan 3.
Speaker:4 or 3.
Speaker:2 or 2.
Speaker:6 and certainly a lot better than 1.
Speaker:6. You know what I'm saying?
Speaker:So just best version of yourself.
Speaker:I think that's, that's where the, the world gets better.
Speaker:As far as where people can find me, so I never used to say this, but this is
Speaker:sort of my, my new thing is if you are humble, if you do have work ethic and
Speaker:you do want to earn your way to external success and internal fulfillment, you're
Speaker:going to love next level university.
Speaker:You're going to love Kevin.
Speaker:You're going to love me and you're going to love the work we do.
Speaker:If you have any level of entitlement.
Speaker:Meaning you want big rewards for minimal effort.
Speaker:You're gonna hate us.
Speaker:You're gonna hate me.
Speaker:Please don't bother and honestly, don't reach out the entitled amongst The world
Speaker:are just never vibe well with us because we are tryhards We we believe in earning
Speaker:it every day and we believe the rent is due every day And if you want to be in
Speaker:love, healthy and wealthy, you're going to have to earn it every single day.
Speaker:And that's just the truth that no one, uh, I guess is easily to lose sight of.
Speaker:And a lot of people that are earning it every day don't really talk about it
Speaker:because it's not fun or cool or whatever.
Speaker:As far as where you can reach out Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedIn.
Speaker:Uh, Instagram is probably the best place at a Lazarus 88, a L A Z A R O S eight,
Speaker:eight DMs, private, vulnerable, please.
Speaker:You know, I know a lot of, a lot of people are struggling a lot more
Speaker:than they let on, particularly men.
Speaker:And so, uh, please reach out if this resonated or if I resonated.
Speaker:And we have a podcast called next level university.
Speaker:As I mentioned, we're on YouTube, all the podcast platforms.
Speaker:We have quite the business.
Speaker:Now we do monthly meetups every month.
Speaker:I have a book club I do every week.
Speaker:We have a journal called the dream liner where you reverse engineer your dreams.
Speaker:Breaks down your decade into years, into quarters, into daily metrics and habits.
Speaker:And, uh, I do one on one business coaching as well.
Speaker:For anyone who wants to start grow, scale, or monetize a business, start
Speaker:grow, scale, monetize a podcast.
Speaker:Kevin's the podcast guy.
Speaker:I'm the business guy.
Speaker:And thank you again, Mike, for all that you do.
Speaker:And thank you for having me.
Speaker:And I look forward to next time and, uh, I'm going to do some disc assessment
Speaker:research based on this conversation.
Speaker:Well, I appreciate it, my friend.
Speaker:And thank you for showing up the way you have and sharing.
Speaker:So, so richly, so I appreciate it and we will get back together soon.
Speaker:Thank you, Alan.
Speaker:Thank you.